I am an individual who has failed (thank goodness), to fit into any one of the boxes that life offers. Instead I am a combination of things, which is often encapsulated in the word eccentric - a title I am delighted to be associated with.
I am but a mere human being doing my very best to manage the hell out of this mad thing called life, to make people smile a little more and love themselves a little more.
And in amongst the chaos that often engulfs us all, I like to remember 3 golden rules that never fail to help me to keep 'showing up and owning up', as a real person, warts and all, embracing my truth and moving to my own beat:
1. You are always enough
2. Find a way to move away from the complex, to find the simple and then
3. Just take the next best step
And the reason I have popped this prologue here, is to catch your eye, in the hope that these 3 golden rules will serve you well, just as they have done me.
First and foremost I am a mother, home-maker and 'change maker'. I have a portfolio career, all underpinned by one core philosophy - to make life better, by empowering us all to be ourselves.
As James Victore says “Your purpose is to figure out who you are."
I am passionate about finding a way to help us all live a more sustainable life, I call this my ‘Third Way'. To help us re-define what success looks like, to live more authentic lives and to be our 'whole' selves.
"Your biggest fear is not spiders or sharks - it's you. It's the fear of expressing who you are - lest someone actually see you.“ James Victore
And that is where the real problem lies, if we do not allow our true selves to be seen, we will never lead the life that we are meant to. And that leaves us with something far worse than fear - regret.
So I feel the fear and do it anyway - each and everyday by living my Third Way.
On a practical level that means:
1. Helping organisations achieve the 'seemingly impossible' and experience genuine transformation, driven by engaged and motivated people.
2. Showing up and owning up, sharing my stories and challenges honestly, via blogging and vlogging, to help others embrace theirs and be their true selves.
3. Helping individuals to rise, find their way forward through discovery sessions, a combination of coaching and consulting techniques.
4. Being a student of life, constantly learning about better ways to live our lives, both at work and play, to share that knowledge and to help create curious and empathetic leaders - which we all have the ability to be, regardless of gender, age, seniority, function or anything else for that matter.
5. Running an artisan fashion and design business, to encourage us all to be ourselves and at the same time, respect our planet by recycling and up cycling.
My career has two acts, before and after my break, which I took to focus on my children and recover from PND, but I also experienced grief, discovered what mortality really meant and learnt a lot about this mad this called life.
I practice the management philosophy 'Teal', brought to life beautifully by Frederick Laloux, I follow the work of Dave Trott, James Victore, Dan Pink, Corporate Rebels, Claude Silver, Gabrielle Bernstein, Mark Manson, Kathryn Mannix and Brene Brown, to name but a few. If they enable me to 'build on the shoulders of giants' and make the world a better place, I'm interested.
I’m an eccentric trying to make the most of my life and that of others, each and every day.
Nikdavis.com has a facebook group, a place to have a conversation, about difficult and sensitive issues - the menopause, grief, addiction, depression, judgement, shame and anything else lurking in the shadows that needs bringing out into the light . To use our collective knowledge to help others tread where they may not have been before. Our rules - be kind, be honest and be you x https://www.facebook.com/groups/285898015282
I have also been extremely blessed to have had the opportunity to talk to so many interesting, kind and open people about this mad thing called life. A few of those podcasts are below, shared with a genuine hope that they can help someone, somewhere.
103 The Eye is the award-winning community radio station. I was delighted to be interviewed by Ling Pang. We discussed PND, the menopause, depression, truth, being vulnerable, our need for genuine connection and this mad thing called life. Enjoy x
I am sincerely hoping this is of help to others - a podcast I recorded with the delightful Kevin Guthrie, as part of radio Newark’s mental health and well being series.
An open and honest discussion on transformation and what it means at an organisational and personal level and how we need to embrace our human messiness to truly embrace transformation.
I’m a sharer - I share all of my experiences, good and bad. I share because not sharing hurts me and it hurts others. It feeds a false reality, where people are hoodwinked into living up to a set of standards, that simply do not exist. I share because I don’t want anyone else to feel alone, isolated and broken.
I guess in a nutshell, nikdavis.com is about helping organisations and people, to redefine what makes us all a true success, to live more authentic, purposeful and truthful lives, to be whole and to be able to lead from the heart with vulnerability, empathy and trust.
"Nik is an exceptional human being who I would wholeheartedly recommend without reservation. She brings a real passion and drive to everything she does. Nik has an amazing ability to connect at a deeply human level with others. She inspires people to achieve more than they thought they could. Her enthusiasm is infectious. Nik successfully balances a focussed, results driven approach with high level people skills. Her level of insight and emotional intelligence is a real gift, and she shares these gifts freely and selflessly in order to benefit others. Nik achieves all of this with a relaxed, warm and friendly manner which makes her a joy to work with." Kevin Miller Managing Director, Apex Human Resources