I'm a mother, home-maker, student, writer, soul midwife and passionate campaigner to change our approach and attitude to mental health, the menopause, sustainable living, death and grief.
I spent 25 years as a management consultant, delivering lots and lots of organisational change, but following a period of PND, experiencing grief and entering a pretty tough menopause, I decided to re-assess my life, my priorities and start to get to know myself a little better.
I choose to change a lot of things. I decided to focus on being a home maker, raising my children and finding a simpler way to live. And I'm glad to say I have. My world is a little bit like the 'good life', I live in the countryside in a very old cottage, with my husband, 3 children, a menagerie of animals and an allotment. I've fallen in love with sustainable design and recycle/upcycle whatever I can get my hands on, including many of my clothes, I discovered a love of writing, returned to studying and re-trained as a soul midwife, I became a volunteer, started my spiritual practice and embraced the great outdoors.
It's fair to say that my life now and who I am becoming is a long way from where I started, which is good because it means I'm much closer to returning home - to who I am really am, leading the life I really want to.
I am passionate about finding ways to help us all live more sustainable, meaningful and simple lives, to help us define what our individual success looks like, to live more authentically and truthfully and to be our 'whole' selves.
"Your biggest fear is not spiders or sharks - it's you. It's the fear of expressing who you are - lest someone actually see you.“ James Victore
And that is where the real problem lies, if we do not allow our true selves to be seen, we will never lead the life that we are meant to. And that leaves us with something far worse than fear - regret.
So I feel the fear and do it anyway - each and everyday.
On a practical level that means:
1. I volunteer at my local hospice, I am a qualified soul midwife, I support people emotionally, psychologically and spiritually at end of life and I campaign to change our attitude and approach to death.
2. I write about everything and anything - experiences, observations, learnings, frustrations and challenges. I show up and own up, my life is not shrouded in silence, shame or illusions, I share all that I am, to enable others to do so too.
3. I am a student of life, constantly learning about other ways to live our lives, both at work and play, to share that knowledge and to help create a more meaningful and sustainable reality for all.
4. I actively embrace an eco friendly lifestyle and share my ideas, learnings and style to help others do so too, to encourage us all to express ourselves through our surroundings and style and at the same time, respect our planet by recycling and up cycling.
In a nutshell, you could say that I am an eccentric trying to make the most of my life and that of others, each and every day.
Nikdavis.com has a facebook group, a place to have a conversation, about difficult and sensitive issues - the menopause, grief, addiction, depression, judgement, shame and anything else lurking in the shadows that needs bringing out into the light . To use our collective knowledge to help others tread where they may not have been before. Our rules - be kind, be honest and be you x https://www.facebook.com/groups/285898015282
"Nik is an exceptional human being who I would wholeheartedly recommend without reservation. She brings a real passion and drive to everything she does. Nik has an amazing ability to connect at a deeply human level with others. She inspires people to achieve more than they thought they could. Her enthusiasm is infectious. Nik successfully balances a focussed, results driven approach with high level people skills. Her level of insight and emotional intelligence is a real gift, and she shares these gifts freely and selflessly in order to benefit others. Nik achieves all of this with a relaxed, warm and friendly manner which makes her a joy to work with." Kevin Miller Managing Director, Apex Human Resources