the thing that gives me courage each and every day


"Someone once told me the definition of hell; on your last day on earth, the person you could have become will meet the person you became"  Anonymous

My Passion


My passion, the thing that gets me out of bed everyday, is to simply empower everyone, to 'show up and own up' as themselves.  

Not to be scared of what others think.  

Not to allow judgement or social norms, to restrict their passion and creativity.  

Not to loose parts of their soul along the way and only realise they have done so, when it is too late to get it back.  

Don't just challenge the status quo - smash it into pieces, with the raw beauty, truth and inspiration, of what it truly means to be a human being living life fully, not caged by optical illusions and meaningless bullsh•t.   

Get out there, take your space, use your voice, be yourself and shake your world, until only the truth remains. 

what's occupying my thoughts today


And once the disbelief had gone and the panic abated, they finally came together as one.

To look after each another and protect the vulnerable.

And then a beautiful thing happened.

People began to find their way home, to a world beyond the optical illusion, where humanity thrived, without competition, fear of loss, or hatred, nourished by Mother Nature and one another.

In amongst the suffering, the chaos and the fear, people entered the unknown - some willingly and some not.

And what they found was simplicity, peace, connection, but most of all love.

For Mother Nature was not punishing them, she was saving them. From themselves before it was too late.

And after the storm has passed, the world was forever changed.

Humans turned up to their lessons, they allowed Mother Nature to guide them and at the end of each day, they all returned home, full of love and courage, ready to face the next one.

With much love, please stay safe and stay home

Nik x

I write for the people who truly give a sh*t about others


I’m not writing for the people who think what I write is crap.

I’m not writing for the people who want to maintain the status quo.

I’m not writing for the people who have no intention, of ever finding their truth.

I’m writing for the people who believe there is a better, different way to be.

I’m writing for the people who feel alone, in their quest for a more meaningful life.

I’m writing for the people who are only ever told they don’t fit in, to tell them they are simply in the wrong place, they have always fitted in somewhere.

I’m writing for the people who although exhausted by life, still feel the ache of hope, but need a helping hand to realise it.

But most of all, I’m writing for the people who truly give a sh*t about others.

So, please don’t mistake me for someone who gives a toss about what you think, if your not one of the people I am writing for, because I don’t and neither should you.

A love letter from me to you


This was part of my birthday invite for my 40th birthday.

Next year will be my 50th.

And I have every intention of growing old disgracefully and challenging the bullsh*t that surrounds ageing, particularly for women.

Life is to be lived every single day and beauty is to be experienced no matter what your age.

B*llocks to airbrushing, botox and ridiculously thin stereotypes.

Define your own reality, embrace your body, your beauty and your wonderfully unique version of life, today and everyday.

With love

Nik x

how can help you?


Organisational transformation consulting

Helping organisations achieve the 'seemingly impossible', think the unthinkable and deliver genuine transformation, driven by engaged and motivated people. Facilitating open and honest 'rumbles', in a psychologically safe culture, to enable people to bring their whole selves to work.

Individual discovery sessions

Supporting individuals to become whole, to discover what 'makes their hearts sing' and operationalise that, via a combination of coaching and consulting. 

Showing up and owning up

Showing up and owning up, sharing my stories with raw, unfiltered honestly, via public speaking, blogging and vlogging, to help others embrace theirs too.

These stories are shared on my blog and via:


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Being a student of life

Being a student of life and sharing all that I learn, to encourage more curious and empathetic leaders. 

Check out the the 'library for the curious' page, my blog, follow my posts on LinkedIn and facebook and keep abreast of progress with publishing my very own series of books (scroll down to see more on upcoming books).



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What do people say about me?

"The world needs more people like Nik, who find a way to turn their work into a force, that changes the world for the better. As a  select Member of our Featured Contributors Panel, Nik’s extraordinary candour, reaches out to our global audience, with a level of intelligence and refinement, that inspires positive action. By doing so, she makes our world better, by beaming messages that help us all become better workers, better friends, and just better people."

Dennis J. Pitocco, Publisher & Editor-in-Chief

Let's have a conversation

I love connecting with people, sharing stories and establishing new relationships. There doesn't have to be an agenda, it's ok to just talk. Please feel free to drop me a line, email, message or call me.

Make Your Own Reality

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