It is world whale day on the 25th February each year. 

The killer whale is a role model for me, as it’s the only other mammal (apart from the short finned pilot whale) to go through the menopause with a significant life thereafter.  

In fact after the menopause, the killer whale becomes the leader of the pod - reverend for her knowledge, wisdom and beauty.  

So, this is a love letter to all of the beautiful killer whales out there and those in waiting.   

Have I told you that the exhaustion will make you rest, because you need it after so many years of hard work?  

Have I told you that those tears of sadness, will heal the wounds you’ve carried for so long?  

Have I told you that getting lost, means you will find a new way home?  

Have I told you that your body is changing, to protect you for the years ahead?  

Have I told you that your irritability is simply reminding you of the boundaries, your mind is crying out for?  

Have I told you that your need for silence, is a mirror to your soul?  

Have I told you that the aches and pains you feel, are signals that your body needs your kindness?  

Have I told you how beautiful your vulnerability, insight, wisdom and courage is?  

And have I told you that calmer waters will come, you are loved and you do matter so very, very much?   

With love  Nik x

I did not know Caroline Flack.  

I did not know her story, nor whether she was guilty of her charges or not.  

I did not know how her pain felt, her hopelessness, her fear, her sadness.  

Neither do I know how she killed herself, the agony it involved, nor the fear she felt as her final moments came to pass.  

And I can only imagine the gut wrenching trauma her loved ones are now left with.  

Today I see an outpouring of grief and sadness, in response to her death.  

But what I would like to know is, where the f*ck was love and compassion when she needed it?  

All of those trolls, the people who think they know it all and that they have the right to act as judge and jury.   

All of those media publications, that feed like starving rats, on the vulnerability of the persecuted and the anger of the persecutors.  

Where was the love and compassion then?   

Because it’s a little bit f*cking late now.   

Judgement, anger, fear, greed and ignorance takes lives.  

Forgiveness, compassion and love saves lives.  

It’s not f*cking rocket science.   

Trolls, judgers and persecutors, if you haven’t got anything good to say, please just shut the f*ck up.  

RIP Caroline Flack.